Life can be pretty confusing. Sometimes, things get even trickier when we have to deal with people and relationships. Imagine living in the same house as someone you used to be with, or going through a breakup without your usual friends around. Maybe you’re now spending a lot of time alone when you used to be out and about. All these changes can make you feel really anxious, alone, and unsure.
While having friends is great, the real power comes from being able to control your own feelings. Let’s dig into why handling your own emotions is important and learn some tricks to do it.
Understanding Your Feelings
Your feelings are like a map for your life. When you need something, like to belong or feel better, your feelings pop up. Feeling embarrassed can mean you want to fit in. Feeling sad can mean you need comfort.
And getting mad might mean you need to set some boundaries. But if handling your feelings is tough, you might either feel too much or not know what you’re feeling at all.
The key is finding the middle ground and using your feelings to make good choices.
Starting with Connections
It might sound strange, but learning to control your feelings begins with making connections with others. Remember when you watched your parents deal with their feelings when you were younger?
You learned from them how to handle your own tough times. But if you grew up around anxious or neglectful people, you might have learned to doubt yourself and feel bad about who you are.
This can make you rely on others too much for comfort.
Think about your past. Back then, if your needs for things like safety and understanding weren’t met, you might have learned to hide your feelings.
This helps you survive, but those hidden feelings stick around.
Instead of facing them, you might try to find someone else to fix them. This keeps you from learning how to handle your feelings on your own.
As you grow up, you need to balance needing others and soothing yourself.
Becoming a Feelings Master
To finish up, remember that life isn’t always easy. Handling your feelings is like learning a skill. It starts with connecting to others and changes how you think about yourself.
Your feelings show you the way – when you’re embarrassed, sad, or mad, it’s like your feelings telling you what you need. But you don’t have to let your feelings control you.
With practice, you can figure out what you need and feel better on your own and make your life richer and happier.